Getting older is part of the cycle of life, and yes, it may be a bit irksome when your next birthday rolls around, and you don’t feel ready for it, but it can be even harder for our parents as they age. In fact, it can be super tough, and something that you want to help them with as much as possible. Luckily, you can find out how to do this is in a way that is compassionate to both them and you, by reading the post below.
The number one thing to bear in mind when you are caring for elderly parents in the most compassionate way is respect. Respect is so important because it helps you act in the way that is best for them, even if it’s not what you would have picked, or if they are unable to pick it themselves.
It also allows adult children to work together with their ageing parents instead of taking over full control of the situation and compounding the difficulty of ageing with a loss of autonomy and voice.
Of course, it is also something that works both ways, and parent needs to be able to respect their adult children’s wishes as well. This can be a particular issue when adult parent move into their child home, as it can be hard for them to take on a role where they are not in charge.
Sadly, it can be tough to balance your parent’s wishes and voice with the care that they need, especially if they are suffering from an advanced disease like dementia, as they may not be consistent in their opinions or requests. In this case, it can often fall to the adult child to take responsibility for providing care. Something that can include care in their own home, by moving them into the child’s home, or by sending them to a nursing home.
Care choices should be made with the parent where possible.
Obviously, the latter is often a choice that is emotional and can be very tough to make. However, with such good quality options like Porthaven care homes now available, it can make things a little easier. Just be sure to make a view visits beforehand so you and your parent can get know the place they will be living in before the move.
Something that too many adult children caring for elderly parents forget is that the need to have compassion for themselves as well. After all, caring for anyone is a difficult, and draining process, and it can be all too easy to end up running on empty, with this then affecting your own life.
That is why it is important to take breaks when you need them, schedule in family time with the rest of your brood, use respite care, and even explore the support that the government can provide for you in this area. Otherwise, you could end up burnt out, and start to have difficulties in other areas of your life, just because you are caring for an ageing parent.
Please note, this is a collaborated post. Thanks for reading.