Dating – Top Tips For Getting Out There

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“I will find you.
In the farthest corner, I will find you.”
Mary E. Pearson, The Kiss of Deception

The thing about love is that it’s worthwhile.  Humans need to both love and to be loved.  It’s rare for relationships to last a lifetime in this day and age.  Sometimes you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your Prince.


As you get older, I feel like the dating pool gets smaller and smaller.  Particularly if your goal isn’t to meet a guy in your local pub or picking a guy up in the frozen aisle of Tesco.  There are some brilliant places online to meet your Prince in the South West, my local area.  We have Somerset Dating, Exeter Dating and Bristol Dating.

I’ve never liked the mundanity of first dates.  The nerves.  The routine questions, “What do you do?  What are your hobbies?”.  Blah, blah, blah.  As if your job defines you.   They’re often just uncomfortable and awkward. I’ve always preferred to bowl on straight past all of those British pleasantries.  I like to jump straight to the nitty gritty and find out what really makes that person tick.

As with first dates, those awkward first messages can also be so uncomfortable.

Hi.  I’m Lu.  I’m new to the site and looking to meet like-minded people with a good sense of humour.  I enjoy long walks on the beach and… Are you still there?  Hello?

No!!  Just no.  Please don’t send messages like this.  It’s not going to capture anyone’s attention nor is it going to tell anyone anything of value about who you are.

If you’re struggling with those first initial contact messages, you could whip out some of these conversational starters.  They’re unconventional but they made me laugh when I read them.

Icebreaking First Messages


chat up lines

 Possibly not the sort of thing I’d personally respond to.  So perhaps these aren’t the sort of openers that are likely to help you meet your soul mate, but they are a step away from the normal.  Please do step away from the normal.  You’re not going to take someone’s breath away by being bland.  Take a risk!

Top Questions To Ask Your Date

❥ Are you close to your family? – I think the relationship a person has with their family is quite indicative of the way they maintain their relationships.  If a guy hasn’t got much time with for his mum or doesn’t respect his dad, unless he has totally lucked out on the family front, I’d say he’s possibly not marriage material.

♥ If you won the lottery, what would your first three purchases be? – Is he materialistic?

❥ What’s on your bucket list? – Does he have aspirations and dreams?

♥ Who is the person you admire most? – Ooh, psychoanalyse that man!

❥ What is the most interesting fact about you? – Personally, I find this a hard question to answer because it’s so vague, but it is one I like to listen to other people answer.


I’m not suggesting that people can’t be happy without being in a relationship.  A relationship will never define me.  Love does enhance our lives though.  We need love.

I hope this gives you some helpful tips for navigating the dating world.  Remember to check out the sites I mentioned at the beginning.   Somerset Dating, Exeter Dating and Bristol Dating.

Happy hunting!

Lu Lovely

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