We’re all prone to health issues as we get older, and the first time that we may find ourselves coming face to face with mortality is when our parents or family members start to succumb to diseases associated with age. And this can be very difficult for us to cope with, but we’ve also got to think about the fact that our children are going through a very confusing time. After all, their grandparents may not be around as much, or hospital visits are far more regular than usual, and this can be very concerning, coupled with the fact that we actually need to speak to our children about what’s going on sooner or later. But what’s the best way we can do this?
Prepare For The Talk
You know your child, so you need to decide when’s the best time of day, where you need to do it and the type of words that you are going to use. There are so many different factors at hand here, depending on their age, but also, you need to think about what your children may need to prepare for a life-altering change, especially if the grandparent needs to live with you. After all, there are many stroke survivors that need extra help, and it can be common that the grandparent moves in with close family members to aid recovery. As such, there are a lot of changes afoot, and by wording it as carefully as possible, it’s delivering the news but also ensuring it’s not colourfully worded or is serving to shield your child from the problem.
Answer Any Questions They Have
It’s important not to shield the child, and if they have questions, especially if it’s in relation to an illness, then it’s your duty to answer them as best as you can. After all, our children can feel left out, especially when there are adult issues. And by giving them the opportunity to open up is a very healthy thing, and it gives you both the opportunity to discuss what can be done, not just for your child to help, but so they can understand their role in the whole process. They are going to have many questions, and it’s important that you answer them as truthfully as possible.
Acknowledge Their Feelings
We have to remember that our children will convey their emotions in different ways. Whatever their feelings, from sadness to guilt, or anger and rage, it’s important that we don’t hinder this. We have to remember that they will express themselves as they see fit, so we have to acknowledge this, and accept these changes. They may be clingier than normal, or they will shut themselves away. Whatever it is, it’s important to give them time, especially if you’re struggling with the news yourself. And encouraging them to vent in a way that they see fit means that they will process the information, rather than completely ignore the issue.
As any form of bad news can be particularly raw, especially to a child has never gone through this sort of thing before, it’s important that we do our best to communicate with our children. A lot of parents decide to shy away from it, which isn’t particularly healthy. Talk to them!